January is both inspiring and disheartening. As people celebrate the beginning of a new year by trying new and better habits, most won’t have the discipline and inspiration to continue those positive changes. Others still don’t know what they want to do during the year. While we’ll each have a different idea on what’s the best new year’s resolution for us, these are 10 things that you might want to add this year. You don’t need to do them all at once, but as these are the classic tips of most self-improvement literature, you might want to give them a shot.
Personally, I want a nice house, a huge income, a car and a motorcycle, be famous for my works (my articles here and all the books I will soon write), have a nice and loving family who are skilled enough to spar with me, be skilled and healthy enough to spar on even terms with my family, enrich lives and leave a legacy, and more. So far, I have NONE of those (as of Dec. 26, 2016).
Like most people, I dream of becoming “successful.” You probably have similar dreams as I do (except for the whole “martial arts and sparring with the family” part), but like me, you likely don’t have everything you desire as of now. So what should we do to earn what we want? There are many ways to be successful in life, but there is one CRUCIAL starting point for all of them. We need to remember what that is and learn to use it to our advantage.
As we grew up, we learned that certain bad habits can bring disaster and that we should avoid them at all costs. We learned that smoking can cause cancer, that leading a sedentary lifestyle and eating unhealthy food brings all sorts of diseases, and that bad financial habits lead to money problems. Aside from those, there is one psychological habit that’s just as horrible. If you have a habit of complaining about problems and inconveniences every change you get, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Here are three BIG reasons why you should stop complaining as soon as possible!
There’s a famous 1960’s study where a Harvard professor named Robert Rosenthal researched on the effects of teachers’ expectations on students. He gave a standard IQ test to elementary children, selected some ordinary kids at random, and told teachers that those few students will soon become very intelligent. Sure enough, after two years, the selected students DID indeed show an increase in IQ.
As Rosenthal’s research continued, he found that the teachers’ expectations affected their interactions with those randomly selected students. Those kids that the teachers expect to succeed were given “more time to answer questions, more specific feedback, and more approval: They consistently touch, nod and smile at those kids more.” In short, expectations affected their behavior, and their behavior affected their results. They expected the kids to do well, so they behaved in ways that made the kids do better.
So what does this story have to do with you? It’s simple. Your expectations about YOURSELF affects your behavior. Whether you know it or not, you act in ways that will make your expectations reality. Your entire life is a reflection of your thoughts.
Why is this important? If you want to avoid a life of failure and you want to improve the quality of your life, you need to learn how to control your thoughts and improve your expectations.
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“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.” – Brian Tracy
Did you know that setting “goals” like “I want to be happy” or “I want to be rich” are a recipe for disaster? No, I’m not saying that because they’re impossible to achieve, it’s that they’re so vague that they won’t give you any information that you can actually act upon. Aside from that, they have no end point to let you know when you’ve finally accomplished the goal. If you want to achieve the things you want and become successful at something, then you must learn how to set goals in life properly. Study this article well, and create your goals based on the principles here!
“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar