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The BEST Way to Avoid Stress at Work

February 13, 2017 by Ray L. 1 Comment

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My friend works at least ten hours a day, EVERY DAY, even during weekends. She’s been at her job for several months now and she’s perfectly fine with that schedule. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t fine with ours. No matter how much we want to avoid stress at work, it’s almost always there to sap our energy. Do you tend to hate Mondays too? Do you dislike your job? Do you come home stressed and tired every day because of work? Do you stay at your current job just because you need the money?

There’s one great way to minimize or avoid stress at work though. It’s not an easy solution, but it’ll certainly be worth it.

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Paano mo nakakamit ang iyong Inaasahan: Kung bakit Self-Fulfilling Prophecy ang Buhay

December 13, 2016 by Ray L. Leave a Comment

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May popular na 1960’s study kung saan ang isang Harvard professor na nagngangalang Robert Rosenthal ay nagresearch sa epekto ng expektasyon ng mga guro sa mga estudyante. Nagbigay siya ng standard IQ test sa mga batang nasa elementary, random siyang pumili ng mga ordinaryong bata, at sinabi niya sa mga guro nito na ang mga estudyanteng iyon ay magiging napakatalino. Tama sa hinala, matapos ang dalawang taon tumaas ang IQ ng mga napiling estudyante.

Noong nagpatuloy ang pananaliksik ni Rosenthal, natuklasan niya na ang expektasyon ng mga guro ay nakaapekto sa pakikipag-ugnayan nila sa mga random na napiling estudyante. Ang mga inaasahan ng mga guro na magtagumpay ay binigyan ng mas-maraming oras para sumagot sa tanong, mas ispesipikong feedback, at mas maraming papuri: mas-madalas silang humawak, tumango, at ngumiti sa mga batang iyon. Sa madaling salita, ang expectations nila ay nakaaapekto sa kanilang galaw, at ang galaw nila ay nakaaapekto sa kanilang resulta. Inasahan nilang magiging mabuti ang mga bata, kaya sila’y gumalaw sa paraang nakapagpatalino sa mga batang iyon.

Ano ang kinalalaman ng kuwentong ito sa iyo? Simple lang. Ang expektasyon mo sa sarili mo ay makaaapekto sa iyong galawin. Alam mo man o hindi, gagalaw ka sa paraan na magpapakatotoo ng expektasyon mo. Ang buong buhay mo ay sumasalamin sa iyong pag-iisip.

Bakit ito mahalaga? Kung pangarap mong umiwas sa buhay ng pagkatalo at gusto mong umasenso, kailangan mong pag-aralan kung paano kontrolin ang iyong pag-iisip at pagbutihin ang iyong expektasyon.

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How you get what you Expect: Why Life is a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

December 13, 2016 by Ray L. 6 Comments

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There’s a famous 1960’s study where a Harvard professor named Robert Rosenthal researched on the effects of teachers’ expectations on students. He gave a standard IQ test to elementary children, selected some ordinary kids at random, and told teachers that those few students will soon become very intelligent. Sure enough, after two years, the selected students DID indeed show an increase in IQ.

As Rosenthal’s research continued, he found that the teachers’ expectations affected their interactions with those randomly selected students. Those kids that the teachers expect to succeed were given “more time to answer questions, more specific feedback, and more approval: They consistently touch, nod and smile at those kids more.” In short, expectations affected their behavior, and their behavior affected their results. They expected the kids to do well, so they behaved in ways that made the kids do better.

So what does this story have to do with you? It’s simple. Your expectations about YOURSELF affects your behavior. Whether you know it or not, you act in ways that will make your expectations reality. Your entire life is a reflection of your thoughts.

Why is this important? If you want to avoid a life of failure and you want to improve the quality of your life, you need to learn how to control your thoughts and improve your expectations.

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Ano ang mga “Anak Mayaman”? (at bakit kailangan mong igalang ang lahat, Mayaman man o Mahirap)

August 2, 2016 by Ray L. Leave a Comment

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Minsan, umakyat ako sa Mount Pinatubo, ang isa sa pinakapopular na bulkan sa Pilipinas. Simple at masaya ang pag-akyat sa tabi ng mga ilog at talampas at napakaganda ng crater lake sa tuktok. Sa tabi ng crater at rest stop ay may matarik na hagdanan, at nakakapagod akyatin iyon kung hindi ka palaging nag-eexercise. Siyempre, marami sa aming mga turista ay napapagod doon.

Ang isa sa mga guides, isang local na sanay na sa bundok nagsalita tunkol sa “anak mayaman” gamit ang nakaiinsultong tono. Marami ang nag-iisip ng ganoon: Ang mga anak mayaman ay mahina, masama, at spoiled. Diba nga ganoon sila lahat sa TV?

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What are “Rich Kids”? (and why you should be kind to everyone, Rich OR Poor)

August 2, 2016 by Ray L. 2 Comments

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Some time ago I climbed Mount Pinatubo, one of the most famous volcanoes in the Philippines. It was a simple and enjoyable hike along the rivers and the canyons and the crater lake at the end was beautiful. Around the crater near the rest stop is a set of stairs, and it’s rather tiring to climb unless you exercise often. Of course, a lot of us tourists get tired there.

One of the guides, a local who is used to the mountain landscape remarked “Anak mayaman” (rich person’s offspring, or “rich kid”) in a disparaging tone. It’s a common mindset: Rich kids are weak, mean, and spoiled. I mean, that’s how they all are on TV, right?

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