One great skill is the ability to adapt to and make use of the best opportunities that come your way, and my willingness to accept unusual opportunities has been tested recently. Since I don’t really like being seen or performing in public, the last thing I wanted to do is stream online. You might know the saying “life begins at the end of your comfort zone” and indeed, life has a funny way of giving you opportunities that require you to face your fears in order to move forward. That is the lesson we have for you here in this article.
Certainly, one of the most valuable things you can do to achieve success is to set long term goals. Unfortunately though, sometimes goals don’t work or don’t happen as planned. What do you do then?
Looking back over the last few months, it’s clear that I didn’t achieve a lot of goals on their proposed deadlines. For example, the income I planned to have didn’t reach the amount I wanted, the book I was supposed to finish and publish last November 2016 needed several months more work, and there are also a few other personal goals I failed in that I won’t mention here.
Fortunately though, I HAVE reached some goals that I’ve planned before. One previous goal I had was getting my AdSense account approved by December 31, 2015… and it WAS approved on the night of December 30, 2015. Another minor goal I set long ago was that of consistently getting over a hundred views a day… and I’ve succeeded at it months before the deadline.
In any case, over the course of our lives we likely won’t achieve some things that we want by the time that we want them. What do you do when you don’t reach your goals? Here are my three tips.
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For some reason, the word “ambition” gained a negative connotation as it conjures images of businessmen and government officials gaining power through corruption. In reality, ambition is simply a strong desire to achieve something that requires determination and hard work. There’s nothing wrong with it as long as you use honest means and it’s actually a requirement of success. If you’re not driven enough to work hard in order to achieve something, you’ll likely become a failure.
Why did I talk about this? It’s because of something I read in Orison Swett Marden’s book, Self-Investment:
While walking around the Philippine Military Academy (P.M.A.) in Baguio City, I saw a plaque containing some very familiar words that I first read during high school C.A.T. (Citizen Army Training).
“We, the cadets, do not lie, cheat, steal, nor tolerate among us those who do so.” — Cadet Honor Code
That’s something we can and SHOULD all live by and it’s simply unfortunate that certain people don’t. Some people got elected into office by giving false promises and lying to millions of people. Some people obtained a lot of money selling cheap products and cheating customers. Some people also received ill-gotten wealth through crime and corruption.
While there certainly are people who became “rich and successful” through illegitimate means, you must NEVER make the mistake of thinking that it’s the only way to become successful. That wrong belief will either keep you in poverty, or it will encourage you to commit crime in order to “get ahead.” You won’t want the results of either of those. Always remember that integrity is an absolute necessity to become truly successful.
Personally, I want a nice house, a huge income, a car and a motorcycle, be famous for my works (my articles here and all the books I will soon write), have a nice and loving family who are skilled enough to spar with me, be skilled and healthy enough to spar on even terms with my family, enrich lives and leave a legacy, and more. So far, I have NONE of those (as of Dec. 26, 2016).
Like most people, I dream of becoming “successful.” You probably have similar dreams as I do (except for the whole “martial arts and sparring with the family” part), but like me, you likely don’t have everything you desire as of now. So what should we do to earn what we want? There are many ways to be successful in life, but there is one CRUCIAL starting point for all of them. We need to remember what that is and learn to use it to our advantage.
As we grew up, we learned that certain bad habits can bring disaster and that we should avoid them at all costs. We learned that smoking can cause cancer, that leading a sedentary lifestyle and eating unhealthy food brings all sorts of diseases, and that bad financial habits lead to money problems. Aside from those, there is one psychological habit that’s just as horrible. If you have a habit of complaining about problems and inconveniences every change you get, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Here are three BIG reasons why you should stop complaining as soon as possible!
There’s a famous 1960’s study where a Harvard professor named Robert Rosenthal researched on the effects of teachers’ expectations on students. He gave a standard IQ test to elementary children, selected some ordinary kids at random, and told teachers that those few students will soon become very intelligent. Sure enough, after two years, the selected students DID indeed show an increase in IQ.
As Rosenthal’s research continued, he found that the teachers’ expectations affected their interactions with those randomly selected students. Those kids that the teachers expect to succeed were given “more time to answer questions, more specific feedback, and more approval: They consistently touch, nod and smile at those kids more.” In short, expectations affected their behavior, and their behavior affected their results. They expected the kids to do well, so they behaved in ways that made the kids do better.
So what does this story have to do with you? It’s simple. Your expectations about YOURSELF affects your behavior. Whether you know it or not, you act in ways that will make your expectations reality. Your entire life is a reflection of your thoughts.
Why is this important? If you want to avoid a life of failure and you want to improve the quality of your life, you need to learn how to control your thoughts and improve your expectations.
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“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.” – Brian Tracy
Did you know that setting “goals” like “I want to be happy” or “I want to be rich” are a recipe for disaster? No, I’m not saying that because they’re impossible to achieve, it’s that they’re so vague that they won’t give you any information that you can actually act upon. Aside from that, they have no end point to let you know when you’ve finally accomplished the goal. If you want to achieve the things you want and become successful at something, then you must learn how to set goals in life properly. Study this article well, and create your goals based on the principles here!
“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar
Stress from work, bills to pay, and all sorts of problems popping up every day. All of them can make life seem hopeless sometimes and you probably think that what you have now, a life living paycheck to paycheck, is all that you’re ever going to get. You could even think that mediocrity, failure, and even poverty are all normal.
Well, they’re not.
What you SHOULD have and what you’re DESTINED to have is wealth and success. It’s your right to be rich, and no matter how much you think otherwise, you are deserving of it as you work to earn it. Remember these quotes if you ever start to doubt that.
Reduce unemployment, help the needy, eliminate poverty and world hunger. Those are all noble goals worth pursuing. We have to be careful though as some solutions do more harm than good. Take these warnings from William J. H. Boetcker’s “The Ten Cannots.”
“The Ten Cannots” by William J. H. Boetcker
- You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.
- You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.
- You cannot help little men by tearing down big men.
- You cannot lift the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer.
- You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.
- You cannot establish sound security on borrowed money.
- You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.
- You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than you earn.
- You cannot build character and courage by destroying men’s initiative and independence.
- And you cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they can and should do for themselves.